Wednesday, April 4, 2012

Trying to Say the Right Thing

I have struggled for the last few days over something that happened over last week and the weekend following. The beautiful young lady above is my granddaughter, Libbylu. LibbyLu has been a cheerleader for approximately six years. her plan for a long time was to go to college on a cheer scholarship. At one time her goal was to be a cheerleader and a surgeon. These days I am not sure but after all she is only fourteen and has a lot of time and living to do before she has to decide.

I digress, so will get to the point. A week or so ago LibbyLu dislocated both hips during practice. A trip to the Dr, ex-rays, etc revealed that she has a congenital malformation of her hip sockets.
Last weekend was the seasons first competition in Kansas City. The problem was that LibbyLu had been grounded by her primary care doctor as well as the specialist from cheer as well as track. She was and remains devastated .

Now LibbyLu was up front and center so her being grounded from performing was problematic. There was disappointment on all sides, for our girl as well as the rest of the team.

What followed was unbelievable from my standpoint. Many of the parents were pretty angry at LibbyLu as well as her mother. Many wanted LibbyLu to go on. "Can't she just go on this one time?" What could it hurt?" One of the girls told her she was just faking and also said that most of the parents thought so too. The assistant coach saw Libbylu weeping and turned away.

Now this is my point. Would any of those parents risk their own child for a trophy? Gives one pause don't you think? Even if we could separate from the fact that this is a possibly life altering problem for our girl, just what is more important. A trophy or honor?

LibbyLu was there last weekend to support here friends because it was the right thing to do. Did she learn anything last weekend. Sure, it seems she now knows where the unkindness comes from. We all know that children learn their behavior from their parents.

As an aside I would like to tell you that my daughter Kelly posted her own story this morning. A couple of cheer parents saw it and there was Libbylu in the middle again. If you were one who commented just know Kelly pulled the post to protect LibbyLu. Bullying is against the law in MO. I will be looking into that.


(un)Deniably Domestic said...

Thanks, Mom. We will be good. Now, it is time to focus on Libby's hips and getting here right again. Love you, Kelly

Kathy said...

Give my love to Libby and let her know I am on team Libby. You go girl! Aunt Kathy

Leeann said...

Hope Libby's hips come right and she has no pain. And re the other parents...well some people just shouldn't be parents, we don't need these screwy ideas and morals to be passed on to children. And the coach needs a talking to also. The coach should be looking out for everyone in the teams welfare, and setting an example on how to comfort their team mate, not turning a blind eye to abuse and hurt.

Heather said...

I am so sad for Libby and the disappointment she must feel. Not only must she face the fact that she may not be able to cheer but to have her "friends" turn on her is heartbreaking. I cannot begin to understand what those other parents are thinking, nothing is more important than her health!!!

elizabeth said...

Hoping Libby is better soon! I don't understand the mind set of parents like that and the coach should not be a coach. Will be keeping Libby in my prayers.

Robin Gold said...

What a sad lesson Libby is having to learn -- on top of the pain from her hips! I would have been so mad I would be sputtering!! I don't know how you get through to parents like that, though. That coach certainly needs more lessons in coaching! Best wishes to you all as you heal from this.

Purple Pam said...

So sorry this happened to such a lovely girl. Too bad some of her friends and their parents did not take Libby's health first, and their "trophy" second.

Betweens said...

I think it is wonderful that your GD has a chin up and continues in her daily life. She also has wonderful support and so does your DD. Well written. I hope that she heals and is able to continue with her dream.
There is a reason for everything and it sounds like your GD has much talent she will find the road to travel and hope to enjoy every moment there are many opportunities. As to being a surgeon with her strength I know her dreams will come true and she will be a wonderful addition to the world of medicine.

BillieBee (billiemick) said...

I thought after I got out of school things like this would stop, but they don't. For 29 years I lived in a neighborhood that was ruled by one 'unusual' woman that decided what everyone would think and who they could associate with. The biggest shocker was they are still going along with her. I was lucky enough to move about 12 years ago. We still have one neighbor that is similiar, but not as bad. I 65 now and the Jr high stuff still exist.

I'm so, so sorry you GD has been hurt. I'll keep sweet thought for her.